“A man must spend time thinking about you in order to fall
in love with you!” – Mimi Tanner, author of “Calling Men”
And he can’t spend time thinking about you if you are
RIGHT THERE. This is why it’s good to give your love
some space – “just enough” space for him to start
That doesn’t mean that you get taken for granted
by him, of course.
Here’s an excerpt from my book “Calling Men – The
Complete Guide to Calling and Emailing the Men You
When He Tells You To Call Him……….
Often a new man in our lives will say to us, “Call me.”
What does that mean?
Those two little words can play big games with a woman’s
mind if she’s not aware of what they really mean – and
how she should react (or not react) to them.
There’s only one time when it’s good news to hear “Call
me”from a man – and that’s when he’s already calling you
frequently. He’s already actively pursuing you, and would
be thrilled to get a call from you. That’s the way you
want it. And then, yes, DO call him. (Just not every
But it’s very different when the relationship is just
starting out, OR when he is not the one pursuing you.
As you can imagine, when woman calls a new man daily or
even more often, instead of making her calls rare and
special occasions, her calls will be far less welcome
and are much more likely to come at a bad time or become
Worse still, her constant calls virtually ensure that her
man is never going to spend time thinking about her.
A man must spend time thinking about you in order to fall
in love with you!
When a man casually says “Call me,” some women assume that
this means he intends to make a date, when he was just
ending your conversation. “Call me” can be the equivalent
of the not-too-sincere “let’s have lunch.” Translation:
“Call me – a year from never!”
When we really want to get closer to a man, and he throws
out “Call me,” some women make the mistake of latching on
to this and taking it too literally. This reveals to him that
you have a lot more invested in a future with him than he
does at that point. This will make a man want to back off
from you immediately.
Give your man a chance to think about you; to miss
you; to fall for you all over again. It keeps things
fresh and maintains the romantic tension between you.
It gives YOU time to think, as well, to maintain
the balance in your life, if that’s sometimes
challenging when you’re falling for someone.
Have a great day, and keep your flirt on!
End of Excerpt from Mimi Tanner